To give care is a sacrifice. It’s sacrificing ones life for another. It’s a spiritually based position which offers value through a God of personal understanding, but is not religious in nature. It is also a full time job that doesn’t pay through money. Caring for anyone who has survived a traumatic brain injury, is to sacrifice ones own hopes, beliefs, dreams and wishes. To a caregiver, it may not have been something you thought you’d do when you were young, and nobody thought they’d have a TBI either. But we all took all of it on. It’s a lot!
Both survivors and caregivers have been tossed into a world they never knew was there, and never thought about, and then once there, in what felt like a foreign land, became willing to travel through the struggle of TBI together. We live on planet TBI, where survivors and caregivers stand with their hearts together as one. We will all always be from this planet: all of us in our unique group together.
As survivors and caregivers, there may not be any benefit that we identify from our struggle. However, if we take the smallest amount of time, we will come across love, and along with it, the meaning of sacrifice, and how these two concepts and/or ideas are intertwined, just as we are as survivors of trauma. Caregivers and survivors are both victims of traumatic brain injury. Caregivers ARE survivors indirectly, and/or by proxy.
Though it is common for humans to fight, I would say in my opinion that for a TBI survivor to fight his or her caregiver, (especially about something medical), is for a survivor to fight themselves. Personality and history of course have a lot to do with just about anything. Do what you can, say what you want, think what you think. Get creative and come up with something. Fighting will be, and avoidance of fighting should become crucial. Love and kindness will carry you along. Use Love as you would a weapon. Find a purpose. God bless.
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