It is common to look at, see or just imagine something in more than only one way. Take the ocean: you could say that the ocean is a dangerous thing or place to be in, because things can be in it that can do harm. You could say that animals, like sharks or what we in South Jersey know as “jellyfish,” live in the ocean and they can hurt you. And you could say that different chemicals are in it and may harm you also, and even the jellyfish and sharks. On the other hand, you could look at the ocean as a fun, enjoyable thing to look at, be near or go in. That can be fun!
You really can look at almost anything from several different angles. In your mind you really just have to lets say “flip” something around, in order to see the thing in many ways, viewpoints and/or angles. It’s sorta like reacting to everything, as though everything is a shape or object, and from different ways of looking at it, many things can be “seen”.
Let’s take Brain injury as an example everyone, sorta. Like for me folks, I had a spiritual nature that I “lost” way prior to my Brain injury. After the injury happened, I returned to that spiritual nature that I “lost.” I could to choose see or imagine the injury from a negative and/or painful viewpoint, where only deficits of different kinds exist, and from that angle, the experience of having something lost is the only thing that exists to me. Many things are forever lost from that angle. I could take this perspective, so that all I see and/or imagine is that that which I used to enjoy and cherish was simply “lost,” accompanied by the feeling of wishing I had not lost it, rather than recognizing what was lost before the injury has been “saved” and/or “given back.” The latter is a much less painful way to view anything.
For me it is within my nature, to think that what is left after the injury is “Nothing”, which when compared to “Something” is much less desirable, and I do not seem to look at what the “Something” is. Though it is however, through using that “Something,” that it becomes possible to see that “Nothing” is not the best way to look at Brain injury, or injury, or anything at all.
Let me use a silly metaphor: like imagine for yourself a deck of cards (not cards like you know of), that are really just a bunch of pieces of paper, on which each is written a statement; kinda like maybe a bunch of fortune cookies that you just keep looking at. You pick up the deck of cards, then drop them all on the floor. When you pick all of them up, but do not go out of your way to sort them, or do anything other than read them, the first one you read says on it:
“you will drop us all, then pick us all up, and two of us will be useless though they were useful before, but you will get us all back. I am the most important one, who will keep you from dropping anymore of anything you would not like to drop. Remember Me from before? You read Me before when you got us, then you didn’t read me again, and forgot I was the first card you read. Think of Me every time you want to hold onto something, instead of dropping it.”
If you see the benefit in finding that card, that makes you want to pick every card up. There is a benefit from looking at the situation in the most positive way, and this positivity becomes a possibility after you find that first card.
It’s like you recognize the message on the card from awhile ago, but after having dropped them all, then picking them all up, you now recognize the first one you picked up and read in a little different way. Having my T.B.I. was like experiencing what it looked like on the ground to lose all of the cards, instead of remembering the importance of that One Card, and what it makes possible for me. After awhile, let’s just say I picked that card up again.
It’s like this: In the example provided, I use the cards as a metaphor for different things. For instance, the Card found in the story represents spirituality, which I believe is the most important card. When it is said that I’ll “get all of the cards back”, that represents Life, rather then to not get any back, which represents Death. By saying some cards will be “useless even if before they were useful prior”, this represents different things within me that do not function as well as they did prior to the T.B.I.
I hope you soon find the One Card for you, that will do something good.