As we all know, many creatures utilize walking as a form of locomotion. Others use swimming, flying, soaring and gliding, as a way to get from “point A” to “point B”. Birds fly, dolphins swim, frogs hop, and humans walk. After a human learns this seemingly not too complex activity, they also then learn how to control “machines” that humans have invented, etcetera, as ways to simulate travel. There are often many destinations that a human travels through, and to and so on. If you think of it, learning how to move one’s body could be seen as the first destination of our lives, which can involve walking, feeding oneself, protecting oneself and so on.
For those who have suffered a Traumatic Brain Injury like myself, this form of locomotion, walking, can indeed become obsolete after injury. If a TBI survivor would like to have the ability to walk again, the process of “learning” this, (because you likely learned when you were young, and utilized it), becomes a destination. You can think of learning how to walk, or doing anything at all (for anyone, brain injured or not), in the forms of simile, metaphor or analogy, like I do, as a way to communicate the process to others. 1
Learning how to walk, after you already learned it when you were young, is like going from kindergarden to grade school, then to high school, to college, to ___ (insert whatever) and so on. Each of these can be seen as destinations, often inside other destinations (stay with me here). For instance, learning how to read, communicate, take in information, process and use it, are all often within the complex process, of traveling to and from and through other destinations. It’s like, one could ride a bicycle, take public transportation, drive a car (or truck), or “hitch a ride” to a place, and even from one place to the next. Each of these processes, if you think like me, are themselves destinations, in an attempt to reach another.
In whatever way I get from “point A” to “point B,” I tend to make errors towards the destination of “being able to walk,” because I am not walking with apparently a “proper gait-pattern”, which greatly impedes my ability to get from one destination to the next. What I’m saying is that those who suffer a TBI, as well as those who love and care for them, are often burdened with a long list of “point A” to “point B” to “point C”, “to point D” and so on. (Well you gotta know the english alphabet first, along with numbers, the correlation of the two, etcetera which is again it’s own destination: pardon the perseveration, friends.)
If you’re a survivor, you may find that you cheat yourself of arriving at one destination by disregarding the fact (or “seen” fact by others), that there is a place you’re supposed to arrive at before you travel to another. In other words, once you’re able to walk, you find yourself eager to get around and move, regardless of whether you are “walking properly.”
Even realizing how to overcome the emotional trouble, which arises when reaching the position, of having the ability to reach a certain destination, is itself a destination. This can be a very difficult place to reach, just as all destinations can be.
My Point: Just cause you got to where you are does not mean you are exactly where you want to be.
You see, some people will acknowledge that I’m doing something that they believe is positive, and they say to me “don’t give up.” And deep down I’m like “I’m not even where I want to be: I have not yet reached my destination.” Therefore, ‘giving up’ to me is a joke of somewhere to be, or even ‘not be’.” That’s what I think inside my squirrely head.
Inside I’m always like ‘giving up’ is not an option for me because, I have a lot to do, and it’s certainly not “that.” Ideally no one would consider that an option, anyway. So, someone telling me not to ‘give up,’ as nice as they are being, are really just wasting their own time, and mine as well. It’s similar to the act of telling me “the sun is not bright,” the second that it is actually really bright. It’s like stating the possibility of the existence of a destination (A.K.A giving up), when in reality it isn’t at all a possibility, or a destination. Telling someone what not to do, when they already know that, is silly. Some people know enough about reachable destinations, while others do not, and often times it does depend on the person.
One destination comes before another, which comes before another, and so on. It’s as simple as A,B,C,D,E,F,G,H,I,J,K,L,M,N,O,P……..or like 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10,11,12, and so on……and it is almost always complex. Using a literary device like this, is one way to re-teach a human brain, especially if some things that have once been learned have been forgotten, destroyed or even distorted.
So, think of everything as destinations. I hope that helps y’all, even a one, two, three, four, or more of you. My first destination was to write for our blog. The next is to reach someone with written word. Those destinations are some I’ve discovered after going through the process of survival, breathing, speaking, writing, etcetera, and so forth. I’m inside a journey over here, and most of you are with me.
Think to yourself that “a destination does not absolutely have to be in physical form!” You can still accidentally arrive to a place you don’t want to be. So from there, change the new destination, even if it might seem to be the same as the one you wanted before the mistake, because a mistake often becomes a new destination. Like in Jazz music, “there are no wrong notes!”
1. See the image I created that represents travel and direction through color,shape, decision, and connection.
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